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Okay, it is unarguably time for a post on the issue of gay marriage.  Last night I was praying to God that he might move the justices of the Supreme Court to overturn the bans on gay marriage and the discriminatory policies.  This is an issue that, regardless of opinion, is very near and dear to the hearts of many, many people in our country.  I am a liberal evangelical Christian and I support gay marriage.  My support for gay marriage is not despite my religious convictions, but because of them.


Let’s first start with the acknowledgement that no one—except for those of you who are Orthodox Jews, who I’m guessing are a rather small percentage—believe in every rule in the Bible.  After all, the Bible says you shouldn’t charge interests on loans, yet I don’t see many Republicans running out to pass new laws on the banking industry.  We decide what rules we follow based on what we feel is God’s will.  We all add our own interpretation when we read the Bible.  However, as Christians, for better or worse, we prioritize.  We put the gospel above Galatians and we put Romans above Leviticus.  Jesus said absolutely nothing about gay marriage.  He did say that it’s wrong to get divorced, which is legal despite that.  So Jesus said nothing about gay marriage…but Jesus did say an awful lot about love.



We are more aware than ever of the horrible things that happen in our world.  Previously we were confined to the horrible things that happened locally.  Earlier this year, a dozen little children were shot to death in their classrooms.  In parts of the world, systematic rape is a tool of war.  Not just ordinary rape, though I find it absolutely despicable that there are so many rapes in the world that such a concept exists, but sometimes gun rifles are shoved into women, bayonets.  America has admitted that it tortured people in Guantanamo Bay.  There are children carrying machine guns.  A fourteen-year-old girl was flogged to death for accusing her cousin of rape.  Malala was shot in the head for saying that she wanted an education.  Women get beaten by their husbands, kids get sexually abused, people with disabilities are tied up and neglected.  There is a lot of hatred in our world.  I don’t think God objects to there being more love, no matter the gender of who’s loving who.  The Bible says that all good things come from God.  Love comes from God.  Therefore, I believe that the love between two people, regardless of gender, comes from God.


Marriage is a changing institution.  The marriage of the Bible isn’t the marriage of today.  There are no dowries and hopefully there aren’t a lot of people who marry to form alliances between families. The marriage of today isn’t even the marriage of fifty years ago.  Does this cause problems?  Yes.  Does this shake our identity?  Yes.  But I think that’s good and that it’s necessary.  Allowing people who are gay to marry will change the institution of marriage, but sometimes the institution needs to be changed.  The institution of marriage has changed so that I expect my future husband to do the laundry with me and pick the kids up from school.  I’m glad for that.  I think that the fundamental core, one of love and respect, is the same, and I don’t think that’s going to change.


I am a deeply religious person.  I believe in the sanctity of marriage.  That’s why I think there’s no reason for the government to be regulating it.  Short of minors getting married, I think people should be able to have whatever arrangement they want.  I personally think that everyone, gay or straight, should get civil unions from the government and marriage can happen privately or in front of their friends and families.  There’s a lot of fear about whether ministers will be forced to marry people who are gay when they don’t believe in homosexuality.  This is a baseless fear.  Ministers should have the right to marry whomever they want.  Rabbis have the right to not marry an inter-faith couple.  Evangelical preachers have the right to not marry a couple that is living together.  For better or worse, that is respected and I don’t see why that would change.  I also think that ministers should have the freedom to marry whomever they want.  Ministers are meant to serve God, so why does the government get to tell them whom they’re allowed to marry?


The truth is that gay marriage already exists.  Not just in Massachusetts or the other states that have laws on it.  Marriage isn’t a piece of paper.  Marriage is two people who are building a life together.  People who are gay are already doing that.  They are buying houses and adopting kids and caring for each other when sick.  They have committed to each other and they are married.  The fight for gay marriage isn’t the fight to allow it, because in reality it cannot be forbidden, but whether we as a nation will recognize those marriages.  Marriage just is.



Corinthians 13:4-8 says: “4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.”  This passage does not say “love should” or “love can”, it says “love is”.  These are statements of truth.  Love cannot be anything but its nature and for those who don’t support gay marriage, there’s nothing you can do to change that.  Gay couples, while having all the same problems as straight couples, are patient and kind to one another.  They protect and trust one another, and for years they have been hoping and persevering that their country will recognize their love.



Many of you are familiar with the show West Wing.  I feel that a quotation here can apply to this situation.  It is about a father whose son was killed in a hate crime because he was gay, and some were worried that he was ashamed of his son.  To the question, he says: “I don’t understand how this President, who I voted for, I don’t understand how he can take such a completely weak-ass position on gay rights.  Gays in the military, same-sex marriage, gay adoption, boards of education…where the hell is he?  I want to know what quality necessary to being a parent the President feels my son lacked.  I want to know from this President, who has not served one day in uniform…I want to know what quality necessary to being a soldier this President feels my son lacked.  Lady, I’m not embarrassed my son was gay…my government is.”  That sums up how I feel.  And I ask the same question of the supreme court justices, congress, and our entire government.  What quality is lacking that you think my friends cannot care for and raise a wonderful child?  What quality is lacing that you think they should not be able to be ordained in their own church?  Because I don’t see anything lacking.


Now, to the argument people make that gay couples shouldn’t have children.  I think an argument could be made that gay couples might even make better parents than straight couples.  There’s one very simple reason: they all want children.  There are thousands of children who are born to parents who don’t want them or are so-called accidents.  This risk simply doesn’t apply in cases of gay parents.  Same-sex couples have to truly want a child and be dedicated to the idea.  Dedicated parents, no matter their gender, make better parents than heterosexual couples who are absent or neglectful.  Besides, you know what, maybe kids with gay parents will have things they need to talk about in therapy one day…and they can join the club.  I don’t think children feeling their parents could have raised them better or done something differently is anything special to a certain type of family.



Recently, a modern family episode aired and a woman getting married said: “It turns out that when you’re with the right person, you can change shelf paper at ten o’clock at night and not want to be anywhere else.”  At which Mitchell and Cam started crying.  I think that’s a beautiful meditation on married life.


I think gay couples should have the right to all the messed-up, maddening, joyful, crazy, exciting, enlightening parts of family life.  They should have the right to have knock-down, drag-out fights about who promised to empty the dishwasher.  They should have the right to spend exorbitant amounts of money on a wedding that they will fight with their parents about.  They should have the right to embarrass their children on field trips.  They should have a right to be in a marriage, not just a gay marriage.  They should have the right to sleep in the uncomfortable chairs in the hospital rooms of their spouse all night.  They should have the right to have both their names on their child’s adoption papers.  They should have the right to not worry about losing their insurance or their house if something happens to the other.  They should have the right to argue with their kids about whether that skirt is too short.


While I’m hoping that the Supreme Court rules in favor of gay marriage, I know that it will not fix everything.  We know this from experience.  Decades after civil rights, there is still racial tension in this country.  Years after the ADA is passed, people who are disabled still have to fight for their rights.  Years after the ERA was passed…oh…well…that’s awkward.  Yes, well, let’s just move on.  If gay marriage is legalized, the sad fact is that kids will still be bullied in school.  The truth is that someone who’s gay might still have to endure some not-really-funny jokes at the office.  But at the end of the day, they get to go home to someone who loves them and vent while that person listens.


And that makes all the difference.


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Now, I first want to say, that I am going to add in those next two parts on religious literacy, however, I came across this and felt that it was important and wanted to share.

I am one of the many people who continues to be concerned over dialogue in the political arena that seems to foster anti-Islamic sentiment or to reinforce people’s narrow views of the religion.  I’ve at times noticed similarities between the preoccupation with many on the right with the supposed threat of Islam to our country and national identity and with the red scare of the mid-twentieth century, including senate hearings.  Another parallel is politicians use of specific words to incite fear or prejudice, trying to appeal to the concerns of a number of Americans.  One of these code words that has appeared is the sudden obsession with sharia law and the so-called danger that it poses to our country.  I found this article by Amy Sullivan of the Huffington Post entitled “The Myth of Sharia Law in America” and thought that it was excellent and certainly worth sharing and discussing.

Link to the article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/amy-sullivan/sharia-myth-america_b_876965.html

Sullivan starts out with the phrase “if you are not vitally concerned about the possibility of Muslims infiltrating the U.S. government and establishing a Taliban-style theocracy, then you are not a candidate for the GOP presidential nomination”.  Part of this is people’s idea of the concept of ‘creeping sharia’, that sharia law will slowly come into our laws and culture without us noticing it and in the process take away our American values, freedoms, and identity.  Sullivan goes onto some of the examples of Republican presidential candidates who have started speaking out against Sharia.  Rick Santorum referred to sharia as a “threat” to the country.  However, this is nothing compared to some of the concrete suggestions at combating sharia law that have been discussed by Republican candidates that Sullivan quoted.

Presidential candidate Herman Cain stated that he “would not appoint a Muslim to a Cabinet position or judgeship because ‘there is this attempt to gradually ease sharia law and the Muslim faith into our government.  It does not belong in our government.’”  I first want to state that what Herman Cain is suggesting, keeping people out of government posts because of their faith, is illegal and it is stated in the constitution that “all executive and judicial officers, both of the United States and of the several States, shall be bound by oath or affirmation, to support this constitution; but no religious test shall ever be required as a qualification to any office or public trust under the United States” (article VI, paragraph III).  It is worth noting that Herman Cain also believes that it should be legal for towns to refuse to accommodate mosques being built if the majority of the population opposes them.  However, by that logic a town could refuse to accommodate any minority religion’s house of worship, for instance a town that was predominantly Catholic, as my own town is, could choose that the Episcopalian, Unitarian, Methodist, Baptist, and Congregationalist churches in the town, along with the Jewish synagogue, could also be banned.  I hadn’t realized that in our country that rights of the minorities were dependent on the whims of the majorities.  Herman Cain continues to be an outspoken critic of sharia law and Islam, saying that “our constitution guarantees the separation of church and state.  Islam combines church and state” as his argument for why Islam is entirely antithetical to America.  The major flaw in his argument is that, as anyone who has read the Old Testament or the Jewish Torah is well aware, Christianity and Judaism both have strong roots in the combination of church and state.  There are laws and regulations in the early books of the Bible on many of the same subjects as sharia such as prayer, contracts, interest, dietary needs, crimes, and welfare.  Christianity and Judaism’s holy texts combine church and state just as much as Islam.  Cain doesn’t seem to realize this however, reasserting: “Islam is both a religion and a set of laws—sharia laws.  That’s the difference between any one of our traditional religions where it’s just about religious purposes.”  Christianity has, plenty of times in the past, instituted governments where there was no separation between church and state, many of these governments existed very recently as well, even now national churches exist in many European country.  The separation between church and state was a new and radical idea at the inception of our nationhood, it is not a religion itself that opposes or affirms the separation between church and state, but how the people of that religion choose to carry out their faith.

Sullivan also cites Newt Gingrich, current presidential candidate and former speaker of the house, who has been calling for a federal law stating that sharia cannot be used in any court case.  The issue is actually a familiar one and has not been confined to sharia.  Many people in the past have said that judges should not be able to use international precedents (as in, decisions or laws from another country) as justifications in American court decisions or sentencing.  The logic behind this is valid.  However, singling out sharia as a threat isn’t quite as valid.  Sullivan addressed the issue of when and where sharia is used in United States courts, describing how examples where sharia might be brought in is when the two litigants are Muslim who would like a Muslim arbiter to settle issues around marriage contracts or business deals in compliance with sharia, or in executing an Islamic will.  Sullivan points out: “They are no different than the practice of judges allowing Orthodox Jews to resolve some matters in Jewish courts, also known as beth din.”  The other times that sharia is brought up is when courts hear cases where the litigants are from different countries, or deals or custody arrangements were made in other countries under different laws, in this case sharia is brought in as the foreign law, it should also be noted that Catholic canon law is permitted in such cases as well, as Sullivan pointed out.  A large number of states in the past two years have debated or passed laws to ban the use of sharia in courts.

However, it actually wasn’t Newt Gingrich’s attack on sharia’s use in court cases that I had a problem with, it was his assertion that supreme court justices and other judges who oppose that idea should be removed.  The judicial system is critical to our fundamental system of checks and balances.  Our judges are meant to augment our legal system and to provide a check on the legislative and executive branches; if we start removing judges based on what decisions they make, not only do we undermine the job they’re meant to be doing, but then we might not get the same opinions, judges might change their verdicts based on which political party is in power out of fear of losing their jobs.  They can no longer contribute to the system in the same way.  When the supreme court handed down their decision in the case of Brown versus the Board of Education, President Eisenhower was in office.  President Eisenhower was a segregationist, but the courts said that schools had to be integrated.  Though Eisenhower didn’t agree with the court’s decision, he knew that as president it was his job to carry out the court’s decisions no matter what.  The courts and judges need to be able to come to their own conclusions about cases and laws, no matter what those conclusions may be, and threatening the very judicial system’s principles that our nation relies on not only undermines that system but fundamentally threatens it.

Sullivan continued her article by defining sharia, noting that although it has become a word in many sound bytes, few people actually understand what sharia is.  Later in the article she quoted the example of a state senator from Alabama, Gerald Allen, who was sponsoring a bill banning sharia, but when asked to define it by a reporter could not actually say what sharia was.  In her explanation of sharia, Sullivan says: “More than a specific set of laws, sharia is a process through which Muslim scholars and jurists determine God’s will and moral guidance as they apply to every aspect of a Muslim’s life.  They study the Quran, as well as the conduct and sayings of the Prophet Mohammed, and sometimes try to arrive at consensus about Islamic law.  But different jurists can arrive at very different interpretations of sharia, and it has changed over the centuries.”  I think one of the closest parallels to sharia, as so defined, would be the Talmud, a text in Judaism of discussions by rabbis over Jewish laws, ethics, and traditional customs, among many others.  I also will admit that I smiled a bit at the last part of the quotation.  In my daily listening to the news and in the research for this article I’ve heard a number of the candidates expounding on how Islam is different from what we think (though I’m not exactly sure who “we” is supposed to be and I wish they would all stop using pronouns like “us” and “they”) and Muslims are therefore fundamentally different from the rest of us.  However, that last part of the quotation sounds exactly like Christianity or Judaism or any of the other major religions.  We all interpret God’s will for us, the Bible, and Jesus’ teachings in very different way.  We come to different conclusions about what the text says or what God means every day and what we believe has evolved greatly over two millennia since Jesus first spoke his teachings.  I think if someone said that all Christians believe _________, if it wasn’t something like “in God”, I think most of us would realize pretty quickly that all Christians don’t agree with whatever it was.  Christians disagree amongst themselves on basically everything, from marriage to gender roles to morality to government to economics to hell to the Bible to church.  The idea that you could say that all Christians think alike or believe in the same things is absurd.  I think the idea that all Muslims think alike or believe in all the same things is equally absurd.  You can’t lump people of all the same religion into one box.  It seems to me that much of sharia is just the process through which through study and faith, many Muslims try to find the best way to live out what they see to be God’s will, the same as any of us.

Sullivan noted at the end that “unlike the U. S. Constitution or the Ten Commandments, there is no one document that outlines universally agreed upon sharia” (though it is worth noting that different faiths use different versions of the ten commandments as well) and began to answer the question of how some Muslim countries use sharia in their legal systems.  While Sullivan acknowledges the extreme scenarios, such as the Taliban ruling Afghanistan using sharia, most countries sharia usually makes up the laws around contracts.  In other countries, where the government is secular, Muslims still use sharia in their practices like prayer or diet.  Sullivan adds, “In general, to say that a person follows sharia is to say that she is a practicing Muslim.”

Lastly, Sullivan addressed many people’s fears about the “extreme punishments” in the sharia like stoning someone to death, beheading, et cetera.  She points out the very important fact that even though a judge can consider sharia in their decisions, sharia cannot override our laws or constitution.  Sharia cannot be used in a way that contradicts the laws that we currently have and no one can force a judge to consider sharia.  Also, despite people’s horror about some of the punishments described in sharia, people have to remember that things that many of us would describe as equally inhumane are proscribed in our Bible.  Stoning is named as a punishment in the Bible.  Yet, in our country’s long history with a Christian majority in the population, I don’t recall stoning ever being chosen as a punishment by a judge, certainly not within the last century.  The fact that the Bible named it did not mean that judges rushed to use it in their decisions and I find it equally unlikely that something different will happen with sharia.

Sullivan questions why sharia has become such a concern for many Americans and such a force in our national debate and elections.  She points out that many people either believe that such laws against sharia are necessary to preempt sharia’s invasion of our laws or, “assert that all Muslims are bound to work to establish an Islamic state in the U. S.”.  Aside from the fact that there is no evidence of that, I don’t see why if people are afraid of something like that why they’re not more worried about the many public figures who continue to call out that our nation is a “Christian nation” and that we must preserve its status as such.  Personally, though hypocrisy among politicians is nothing new, I still have to say that I wish we could expect better of our presidential candidates.  The Republicans are running on the core value that we need to restore America’s focus on the document of the constitution, while many of them are not only threatening the first amendment’s protection of people to be able to practice their religion freely but are also disregarding laws about religious discrimination in public offices and the checks and balance system of the three branches that was at the very core of the constitution.  Sullivan seems to think it is more likely (and I agree) that instead of Muslims slowly working together to impose their religion upon us “that politicians who cry ‘Sharia!’ are engaging in one of the oldest and least-proud political traditions—xenophobic demagoguery.”  She says that one of the easiest ways to tell “is when politicians carelessly throw around a word simply because it scares some voters.”  A sad example of the many ways that politicians like to use emotionally charged words to incite people to make emotional decisions motivated by fear rather than reason.  Sullivan finishes her article strong, stating: “The anti-communist Red Scare of the 1950s made broad use of guilt by innuendo and warnings about shadowy conspiracies.  If GOP candidates insist they are not doing the same thing to ordinary Muslims, they can prove it by explaining what they believe sharia is and whether they’re prepared to ban the consideration of all religious codes from civil arbitration.  Anything less is simply fear mongering.”

Now, for my final word, I’d like to say why any of us who are not Muslim should be actively involved in fighting against any attempts to limit Muslim’s religious freedom.  It might be easy to not be too concerned, since either way, we could argue, it doesn’t affect us.  However, there is first the danger that the erosion of the religious civil liberties of any one group threatens the religious civil liberties of us all, and we might very well find ourselves in the same place later down the line, one never knows.  There’s also the simple fact that it’s wrong, and as the Bible extolls us to “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” this should mean that we are vitally concerned with the treatment of other people.  Lastly, I think history has shown, that while those who led charges against discrimination against a people are always villified, it is really the people who stood by and let it happen that history lays the most blame at the feet of.

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